ROUTINE ADJUSTMENTS

School has begun for another year. Children are arriving with Mom or Dad in their new classroom. No one is quite sure how this will work. The children are nervous about the new space and the new teacher and all those new children. Mom and Dad are not quite sure of how their child will react, or how much this new experience will affect everyone....including them.

Here is an idea to make the transition a bit smoother:

BEFORE arriving at school, discuss with your child what will happen. Talk about what they will see and do when they first arrive. Discuss which activity(ies) you will do with your child. Tell them that you will leave after that activity is done. You can be as detailed as your child is able to handle, with the routine you want to set.

For instance, "First we will put your coat in the cubbie. Then let's go see what projects are open today. Then we can choose one thing to do together. And then I have to go to work. I will be back at the end of your day."

When you arrive at the school, do exactly what you said you would do.

And then go!

You may need to ask the teacher to take the child while you go out the door. If so, hand the child over to the teacher and say goodbye. Never try to sneak out when they aren't looking. This frightens them and sets up trust issues between you and your child.

Set this routine every day. It doesn't have to be the exact same activity, but it should be the same routine.  Once the situation becomes predictable, the child begins to feel more secure and comfortable. Transitions and adjustments are no longer a struggle.

It is not easy setting the routine, but it WILL get easier as time goes on (usually about 2-3 weeks) ....as long as you are consistent.

Ask for help if necessary.